"I'd make the perfect wife"

Melanie Fiona has a song out now that called 4am. I'm digging the song because I've been there many of times waiting up for my man 2, 3 and 4 in the morning. Whenever I hear it though, there is one line that always catches my eye.

I don't deserve this life. I'd make the perfect wife

Every time I hear it, it always gets me thinking: What makes a woman the perfect wife? What would constitute as that? Does she think she'd be a perfect wife because she's (creating a back story here) been with this guy for some amount of years, loves him no matter what, trusts and honors him, would do anything for him including waiting up yet again for him to come home? As far as I know, there isn't an updated guide to being a good wife. I could only find one and that was from the 1950s. I looked for it. Trust and believe I'm not a 1950s wife. Not saying I couldn't be. I'm sure that I could quit my job, clean the house all day, make sure that full meals are ready no matter when he gets home, greet my husband with a beer or some night cap, don't speak, knit a sweater and make sure that his needs are taken care and disregard my own and give him the best damn sex he ever had no matter how I'm feeling. I could but it's just not me and that's not what my husband asked for. If so, he would have found someone else. Another blog.  

So again, what is the perfect wife? She's a great cook, makes sure the house is immaculate, keeps her look flawless, a good listener, doesn't gossip, balances her emotions, lady in street but a freak in bed? I asked myself this question over and over when we got engaged. I never doubted how I would be as a mother but a wife---a whole different story for me. What is expected and what if I can't do it? The word wife has so much with it that it almost frightened me. My parents, my role models, are wonderful parents but not so much as husband and wife. Then you look at wives we see in public like TV and movies. Who seemed to be the perfect wife? Clair Huxtable of course. She was a career mom. She was funny and intelligent and she kept the home together and she and Cliff still got down in the bedroom. Perfect. I think every mother wanted to be her and every man wanted to marry her. Truth though is that the character is fictional. Possible but fictional. Plus I think for any wife to be perfect, her husband/spouse would need to match them. The Huxtables as a unit worked. They were there for each other. They listened to each other and helped the other. She wasn't a perfect wife. She was perfect for him ...in TV land. So now here we are in reality and women are getting married every day. When you say "I do'', know that you cannot be the perfect wife. Don't strive for it because you will hurt yourself trying. I learned that after about six months. I was trying to work 8 to 10 hours, come home, cook dinner and clean the kitchen along with handling the money. He didn't ask for that. I told him that what I would do before we got married so for about six months, that's what I did. I then got to a point where I was stressing because I felt like I was doing things by myself. He asked to help but I wanted to be the perfect wife and do it all. I asked for it so why complain.  I had to tell myself that I couldn't. So now I still do cook meals and clean but we do it together. I still handle the money but we do it together.What do you think constitutes as the perfect wife?